Presents six principles to help couples heal their relationships, offering positive steps for dealing with spouses who are workaholics; controlling; uncommunicative; physically, verbally, or sexually abusive; unfaithful; alcoholic or drug-abusing; or depressed. Original.Publishers Description
Countless couples today face major marital struggles. But the story doesn't have to end there. Dr. Gary Chapman communicates genuine hope for every marriage--even for those with deeply rooted wounds. Chapman provides positive steps for dealing with spouses who are:
- Physically, verbally, or sexually abusive
- Alcoholic or drug-abusing
Est. Packaging Dimensions: Length: 9.03" Width: 6" Height: 0.56"
Weight: 0.68 lbs.
Release Date Apr 1, 2008
Publisher MOODY PRESS BOOKS #13
Availability 13 units.
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|Great Book May 1, 2010|
|This book is very insightful and shares personal experiences and situations. I would recommend this book to any married couple.|
|When we have God, we have hope in any situation. Mar 4, 2010|
|This book gives you encouragement affirming that you are "not alone" in your situation. There is NO hopeless situation when we allow God to do His work in us. I want to thank Dr. Gary Chapman for His good work, which I know he gives glory to God for.|
|Desparate Marriages (from Amazon) Dec 15, 2009|
|The book came quickly and in excellent condition. The content of the book wasn't what I was looking for, but I believe you can always learn something from what you read. Check out the "Look inside this book" link and read the excerpt carefully to be sure this is what you want. However, the content has nothing to do with the vendor. The vendor is trustworthy and someone I would do business with again.|
|Desperate Marriages---Hope in Desperate Times Sep 9, 2009|
|In reading Mr. Chapman's book I found honesty in facing a desperate marraige. Not only is he straight-forward, but he offers hope and answers to many of the hard questions in relationships. His words are based in Biblical concepts and if you are willing, could be the steps to mending the hurts or tears in your marriage. A hard but well worth it read!|
|A Good Reference, Not to Read Cover to Cover Mar 13, 2009|
Moving Toward Hope and Healing in Your Relationship
Anthony J. Centore Ph.D.
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After Gary Chapman wrote the International Best Seller The Five Love Languages, myriad of spinoffs were published: The Five Love Languages of Children, The Five Love Languages of Teenagers, The Five Love Languages for Singles, The Heart of the Five Love Languages, The Five Languages of Apology, and The Love Languages of God; not to mention what appears to be several updated revisions of the aforementioned.
Rest assured, this book barely mentions the five love languages--keeping it to a minimum of just two pages in the first chapter, two pages in the back. Done. Finished. Life moves on. Finally.
In Desperate Marriages, Chapman promotes a philosophy he refers to as "Reality Living," of which there are six rules: (1) I am responsible for my attitude, (2) My attitude affects my actions, (3) I cannot change others, but I can influence others, (4) My emotions do NOT control my actions, (5) Admitting my imperfections does not mean I am a failure, (6) Love is the most powerful weapon for good in the world.
This book is well put together. It is quality material. The reader with real marital problems and needing real information will get real information. For instance, the book speaks about divorce in chapter one--a smart move, for this is certainly on the mind of someone who is in a desperate marriage. Chapman states, "while divorce removes some pressures, it creates a host of others." Moreover, the book contains some good psychology (which any counselor reader will recognize as being of the CBT persuasion), and Chapman aptly references William Glasser (i.e., creator of Choice Theory/Reality Therapy). Chapman borrows Glasser's concepts when he states every person has a need for love, freedom, significance, and peace with God (wait, what happened to power, fun, and survival?).
After a few introductory chapters, the book employs a by-topic format, each chapter coaching the reader on how to apply the six "reality living" rules to marriage with a difficult spouse. The chapters are labeled:
* The Irresponsible Spouse
* The Workaholic Spouse
* The Controlling Spouse
* The Uncommunicative Spouse
* The Verbally Abusive Spouse
* The Physically Abusive Spouse
* The Sexually Abused/Abusive Spouse
* The Unfaithful Spouse
* The Alcoholic/Drug-abusing Spouse
* The Depressed Spouse
My feeling is mixed about the by-topic format type. On one hand, there's something for everyone; but on the other hand, at some point everyone gets left out in the cold. What I mean is, I would find it hard to recommend this book to a client without the caveat, "It's a useful book, but a lot of these chapters won't apply to you."
Bottom line, if you've been looking information on the topic of troubled marriages, give Chapman's new book a read. It's a good reference, and the idea of "reality living" provides a significant philosophical foundation. And stay tuned, with any luck Desperate Marriages of Children should be out by fall.
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