Trish Ryan was the quintessential successful thirtysomething woman -- she had a career as an attorney, a nice car, and a succession of men clamoring for her affection. But despite all her accomplishments, the things by which she defined her life continually left her disappointed, especially when it came to dating. Like the heroines of chick-lit novels and "Sex and the City," she couldn't escape her bad luck with men: men who cheated, who left her, who made her a lesser version of herself. After years of trying everything out there to make love work -- new age philosophy, feminist empowerment, myriads of self-help programs -- she finally, hesitantly, decided to give God a try. This is Ryan's story of how her search for the right guy turned into the search for the right God, and (spoiler alert!) how she ended up with the happily-ever-after ending.Publishers Description
Trish Ryan was the quintessential successful thirtysomething woman -- she had a career as an attorney, a nice car, and a succession of men clamoring for her affection. But despite all her accomplishments, the things by which she defined her life continually left her disappointed, especially when it came to dating. Like the heroines of chick-lit novels and Sex and the City
, she couldn't escape her bad luck with men: men who cheated, who left her, who made her a lesser version of herself. After years of trying everything out there to make love work -- new age philosophy, feminist empowerment, myriad of self-help programs -- she finally, hesitantly, decided to give God a try. This is Ryan's story of how her search for the right guy turned into the search for the right God, and (spoiler alert!) how she ended up with the happily-ever-after ending.
Est. Packaging Dimensions: Length: 8.3" Width: 5.6" Height: 1.3"
Weight: 0.945 lbs.
Release Date Apr 30, 2008
Publisher HACHETTE BOOK GROUP
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|For Every Woman Who Ever Yearned for Love Oct 14, 2008|
|Trish Ryan's HE LOVES ME HE LOVES ME NOT is a must read for ANY WOMAN who has ever made even one bad decision at love, even more so, for any woman who has ever searched for the meaning of life or love. Not since Lauren Winner's Girl Meets God: A Memoir have I loved a writer's "voice" and style so much. This is the kind of book you will want to grab and cuddle up with on your couch, at your poolside, or any place you can be alone to enter the author's world and devour its pages. You don't have to love memoirs to love HE LOVES ME HE LOVES ME NOT. Sure, you will see portions of yourself, but more importantly, if you're looking for God, you will find him here! For ladies still searching for God, Trish will show you to way to find him. For those of you who already met God, you'll be humbled to see how our words and deeds affect those around us for good or for evil--yikes. I look forward to many more books written by Trish Ryan. In the meantime, I hope millions of you pick up this book and continue on your own journey to love and to God.|
|You have GOT to be Kidding me Sep 28, 2008|
|If you're looking for a faith-oriented version of "Eat Pray Love"; keep looking. This book has serious credibility issues. For instance - She's a Lawyer who makes Law Review but she can't find a job in Boston? She can live for a year on the proceeds of a sale of a ring? Yah. Forgive me for being skeptical but if you're focused and ambitious enough to make Law Review, you should be able to find a job post-bad-divorce. |
Secondly, I have a real problem with naming some names in her journey - particularly the Christian ones (presumably so we can all tune in to Joyce Meyer and go to the Vineyard Church) but not her "new Age" ones - choosing a Pseudonym instead of a person whom she followed and using a euphanism instead of the teaching guides - though she does list off the popular books she read in her "New Age" studies as she talks about burning and/or destroying them.
Lastly, I swear, throughout the whole book I kept conjuring up a Loony Tunes Foghorn Leghorn cartoon character - the skinny chicken who's always chasing after him screaming "a MAN!" and blinking her 'lil old eyes. Even as she's putting herself back together (and for the second time int he book being two faced - telling the guy she's with she wants no commitment then being all devistated that she doesn't get a ring - even after a disasterous marriage), all she can think about is "Bring me a Husband!" Really?
Now, of course, life is perfect. She's been married a year. Yeah. Tell us about how he's your perfect match in Christ for all time and your soul mate in 20 years. And leave out the obvious slams of other (better) authors and "New Age" teachings that are, well, 5000 years old.
It is good for a laugh or two.
|a delightful surprise Aug 6, 2008|
|I heard Trish recently at the Printers Row Book Fair in Chicago. I was impressed with her humor and sincerity. I bought her book for a friend about Trish's age (30-ish). However, I started reading it myself and couldn't put it down. As a 60-ish woman, I enjoyed her authenticity as she describes her jagged journey to finding spiritual meaning in her life and, along the way, finding the "right" husband. I like her spunk! She does not give up.|
|Love of my life Aug 2, 2008|
|I loved this book more than I have ever loved a book. This book came upon me at exactly the right time. |
|Words To Mouth Review Jun 23, 2008|
|When I first read the book jacket on He Loves Me, He Loves Me NOT (HLMHLMN), I thought I was in for some light-hearted chick lit or a God on a Harley type ride. Trish Ryan's desperate hubby hunt turned faith quest ended up far more meaningful than finding Prince Charming.|
Spirituality/Religion can be a heavy topic and can put many a reader on the defense, but Trish reveals her journey with such candor and humor, I, for one, walked away appreciating her process.
In her twenties, Trish threw around the common disclaimer that she was "spiritual, but not religious." She embraced everything from A Course in Miracles, astrology, tarot cards, feng shui, crystals, chakras, Native American spirituality--you name it, she tried it. If she hadn't already made her choice, you better bet, Trish would be first in line to buy Oprah's Book Club pick, Eckhart Tolle's A New Earth Awakening To Your Life's Purpose. With painful self-dissection and heartache, all that changed...
Even if you're not exploring enlightenment, you can glean clarity from Trish's memoir. I appreciate her willingness to allow us a glimpse into her spiritual and psychological trenches--she admits her insecurities and speaks openly about the dreaded "D-word," depression. Don't be detered--HLMHLMN is by no means a downer. Think Sex in The City meets Women of Faith ~ Trish's relentless self-effacing humor inspires quick page turning.
I doubt we'll find many people, especially women, who won't find themselves relating to Trish, at least on some level. She reminds me of our tendency to project our ideals onto our latest man crush--the biggest trap we can set for ourselves. Instead of seeing others--specifically, prospective mates--for what they truly are, we throw our notions of perfection at them in hopes they'll stick, so we'll finally find our elusive soul mate glazed in shiny flawlessness. Then, "Life Happens," and inevitably things heat up and that glaze begins to melt, slowly dripping off to reveal the faulty individual underneath...and we're left with our disappointment wondering "What happened? Why did THEY change? I appreciate Trish's comitment to digging deep in HLMHLMN to determine that the hole she thought she could fill with a man truly could not be satiated by someone of this world.
I must admit, I was left wanting her to explore just a bit more:
**WHY she had such a deep sense of insecurity in the first place ~ From her account, she comes from a strong Catholic in-tact loving family--anything BUT dysfunctional compared to today's standards--so where does this deep internal abyss originate? Without God, does that unfillable hole reside in us all?
**Like Trish, in my twenties, I fell into the trap of thinking my boyfriend could complete me . On page 26 of HLMHLMN she admits: "Dating Josh marked an evolution for me: it was my first experience with lying about who I was and what I wanted, of guessing what a guy wanted and then pretending to be eactly that." That was me. I didn't know myself or what I wanted and I thought finding a guy would fill that void--in was unconscious, unintentional. After reading HLMHLMN, I found myself wanting Trish to explore her own individual passions and purpose apart from her quest for landing a man. Hmmm, maybe visiting her website will provide those answers. You can also visit Trish's Forty Days of Faith website.
Just a sidenote: As a young twenty-something "yankee," living very much like Trish--very defensive to condescending "Christianese." I had a number of Born Agains hit me with well-intended phrases like "Don't you want to be washed in the blood of the lamb?" and "My heart is burdened for your salvation" ~ Huh? That, quite frankly, felt far from loving--only sanctimonious--and turned me OFF from Christianity. It's no wonder Christianity gets a bad rap these days. Conversely, I think Trish does a superb job of articulating the Christian tenets in a nonthreatening conversational tone--very much like a discussion you may have with a nonjudgmental loving girlfriend. Admittedly, I've lived in the southern Bible Belt for nearly fifteen years now and embrace the Christian perspective, so maybe I'm immune at this point, but I'd be interested to hear how you recieve Trish's message.
What are your impressions? Let's start a conversation..Feel free to visit my website at www.WordsToMouth.com and leave a comment or call and leave a voice mail.
Bottom line: HLMHLMN obviously evokes much introspection. I recommend it and would love to hear your thoughts on the book and the points I've raised in this post.
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